Struggling to deal with your child’s tantrums in public?
Then, you are at the right place…
Because today, I will give you the 5 actionable tips to DEAL with the temper tantrums of your child.
…. the tips you can carry out RIGHT NOW and which never FAIL.
And the best part:
With these tips, you can stop the temper tantrums of any child, anywhere, anytime.
Toddler tantrums and hitting are terrorists.
You dread them! Don’t you?
And when they occur in a public place, it’s like a slap in the face of your parenting skills. The staring eyes of the passers-by feel like a thousand needles pricking your conscience.
“What will they think about me? Am I a bad mom? I can’t control my child?”
Sounds like you! Isn’t it?
So, to escape the embarrassment:
- You give in to your child’s demands (talking about illegitimate demands, not the basic needs of hunger and thirst) OR
- Scold or spank the child to stop the temper tantrums.
- SHOUTING at the child is followed by more screaming and crying.
- SPANKING invites HITTING from your child. He learns to be violent.
- The child LEARNS that he can get his demands fulfilled by throwing tantrums. Tantrums become his favourite weapon to gain your attention.
SO, BE PREPARED FOR A STRONGER TANTRUM THE NEXT TIME!
Now, you wonder:
I have talked about the problem. But, what is the solution?
So, let’s dive in quickly.
HOW TO DEAL WITH TEMPER TANTRUMS IN PUBLIC?
#1 UNDERSTAND the cause of a tantrum.
Tantrums are seen in 1- 4-years old children and are an outburst of their emotions.
Because that’s the only way they know to express themselves. Toddlers are too young to control and express their emotions like adults. When the toddler is hungry, tired, bored, or can’t get what he wants, he expresses it as a tantrum.
Signs of toddler temper tantrums:
- Non-stop crying
- Lies on the floor
- Hits others
- Bangs his head on the floor or an object
- Holds his breath
Toddler tantrums when to worry:
- They last over 5 minutes
- The child hits himself or others
- Holds his breath
In such a scenario,
THE ONLY WAY IS TO CARRY THE TODDLER AND TAKE HIM HOME.
Give him a healthy snack to munch upon.
Get him to nap or if he is bored, engage him in a useful play.
#2 Keep yourself CALM
Sounds easy, but difficult to put it in action!
REMEMBER the after-effects of shouting or spanking your child. It will definitely switch off your adrenaline rush.
#3 WAIT for your child to calm down
Majority parents intervene too early to stop the temper tantrums.
If the tantrums are not due to hunger, tiredness or boredom OR the child is not hitting anyone, WAIT for your child to calm down. STAY CLOSE to him but without speaking a word. Just WATCH him carefully.
You may ask:
What about the nearby people who are watching both of you?
People today are least bothered. So, just forget about them and CONCENTRATE on your child.
#4 Do NOT GIVE IN to your child’s demands.
As said earlier, don’t do this otherwise you will face a stronger tantrum the next time.
Your child’s brain and intelligence are developing. He is out to explore the world and learn.
So, responding to his tantrums in this way gives out a message: “MISBEHAVE TO GET A PARENT’S ATTENTION.”
#5 TALK to the child about his misbehaviour
Your child has calmed down.
You haven’t paid to his wishes.
And now you are back at home. You forget about what happened at the grocery store and ignore it as a passing affair.
But, your work doesn’t end there.
You also need to make sure that it doesn’t happen AGAIN.
So, TALK to the child about how he misbehaved in the public. However, while talking:
- Look into the eyes of your child
- Keep a smile on your face
- Use a calm but a firm tone of voice
- Give him options for better behaviour when he has an emotional outburst
- Tell him clearly what demands can be fulfilled and what not
However, your child may still throw a tantrum the next time you visit a grocery store or anywhere in public. But, you need to keep patience and repeat the above steps. Eventually, the child will outgrow his habit of throwing tantrums.
Besides, if you work upon your child’s tantrums at home, he is less likely to throw a tantrum in a public place. It’s only when you don’t deal with a child’s tantrum correctly at home or pamper him, he is more prone to throw tantrums in public.
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If you have any more tips to control your toddler’s tantrums or you applied these tactics, come back and share them in the comments below!
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