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A-debate

Kehte hain jab bacche bade ho jate hain toh maa ko maa nahi, dost samjhana chahiye.

But….this question….of being a friend or parent to child is so disturbing, especially when your child is surpassing the stage from a toddler to a teen. Yet, it’s difficult to find one correct answer.

When I posted this question on social media,  the response was overwhelming.

That ‘s the moment I realised that you are not alone in having this question in your mind; many parents have sailed the same boat and learned through their experiences.

 

What role your should paly for your child? A friend or a parent? Get your answers to this confusion here. #MomandMe #parenting

 

Because ultimately they want to be the best and give the best to their child.

Kajal Dhir, a mother of two teenage daughters, shares her opinion on being a friend or parent to child in her words:

Please read it until the end to end your confusion.

आओ हम तुम मिलकर बात करें

रिश्ते को न‌ई दिशा दें, इक न‌ई शुरूआत करें

सबसे पहले रिश्ता जुड़ा तुम्हारा मुझ संग
सबसे प्यारा रिश्ता जुड़ा मेरा तुम संग
चलो और गहरे करें इस रिश्ते के रंग
जिंदगी को बदलकर इक नई सौगात करें
रिश्ते को न‌ई दिशा दें, इक न‌ई शुरूआत करें
जिस दौर से गुजर रहा है जीवन तेरा, कभी इसी पड़ाव से निकला था काफिला मेरा
आसमां को छूने का जोश और दूजा शारीरिक परिवर्तन तुम्हारा
कुछ Peer pressure है तो कुछ मन में उठता तूफा‌ं तेरा
क्यूं ना इस तूफान का सामना, हम ले इक दूजे का साथ करें
रिश्ते को नई दिशा दें, इक नई शुरुआत करें
चाहता हूं दोस्त बनकर तेरा, हर बात तेरी तुझसे share करूं
कर विश्वास कि मैं भी तेरे जज़्बातों की दिल से care करूं
भीतर की बदलती जिंदगी में खिला तेरा दिलो दिमाग रहे
हरदम रहे महकता तुझसे मेरे आंगन का बाग रहे
Mutual understanding के फूल खिले और खुशियों का विस्तार करें
रिश्ते को न‌ई दिशा दें, इक नई शुरुआत करें
दोस्ती के संग संग अपनी मर्यादा को भी मैं याद रखूं
अपने Parent-child relation को भी आबाद रखूं
दोस्त बनकर समझ पाऊं मैं तेरे मन की बात पूरी
सही राह और Solution देने को करूं Parent की Duty पूरी
निभा पाऊं तेरी परवरिश की जिम्मेदारी पूरी
अपने मिलन के हर दिन हर क्षण को इक हसीं मुलाकात करें
रिश्ते को न‌ई दिशा दें, इक नई शुरुआत करें

 

Thus, you can’t be just one! A friend or a parent to your child. You have to be both. In fact, not only a friend or a parent, but play multiple roles for them. A guide, a facilitator, mentor, and even their punching bags; all merged into one.

You have to build the confidence in them as a friend on whom they can rely and share all their feelings with; they can feel your patient ears listening to them and not just giving them your parenting Gyan.

And of course, a parent who is firm and unmoved to set boundaries and rules for them without being critical and harsh towards them. So, you have to be in both the shoes all the time.

Hope that ends your confusion of being a friend or parent to child! Like the post? Don’t forget to share it with other parents too! Help others traverse the difficult journey of parenting with ease!

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Dr Shivangi Aggarwal

Hi. I am Dr Shivangi Aggarwal, Founder, Mom and Me, practicing as a homoeopathic consultant for child diseases since 10 years. Raising a physically and emotionally healthy child is no less than a challenge today as it is encountered by many hurdles. "Mom and Me" holds your hand to overcome these challenges in the most practical way and give your child a future he will love.

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Ludy alvior veranque · November 18, 2017 at 6:07 pm

Your page is very interesting to most parents who are experiencing problem with their teens.

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